Where does one even begin? Life is so messy. There are some phases where you feel invincible and that you can weather any storm. Then there’s other times in life where you feel completely knocked off your feet, unable to breathe and that there’s no way you’ll ever be able to see straight again much less return to life as normal. Life has a way of breaking you in the most unbreakable ways. Sometimes you’re just tired and over it.
I’ve had some incredible waves of messy life in my life but some of my friends and loved ones have had way worse. The horrors of what people walk through in life: the loss of a child, battle with cancer, abuse, addiction, homelessness, domestic violence, and on and on, makes my life look pretty peachy in comparison. When you love others through the messiness of their life it makes you more thankful for your own messiness.
Sometimes (not always) the greatest cure to pulling us out of the throws of despair from our life circumstances is to get some perspective based on the experience of someone else. How transparent are you being about your messiness in life? Are you being genuine when people ask “how you are doing” or do you always answer a general “I’m okay”? What happens if you’re not okay that day? It’s sad that as a society we don’t feel that we can be vulnerable with each other to lean on each other in times of need and grow from each other through times of hardship.
Be the catalyst to change. The next time someone asks “how are you doing today” on a day where you aren’t doing well, tell them the truth. Tell them “I’m tired and over it.” You’ll see their walls and defenses come tumbling down. Maybe they needed to hear about someone else’s messiness of life to put theirs in perspective. Maybe God will use your words and transparency to cause change and growth in their life. Who knows how God would use it. But what harm can it do?
So if you want to ask me, I’d tell you I started my day as a mess, tired and over it. I ended my day feeling incredibly blessed and highly favored by God. Not because my day got better as it went, but because God put people in my day to strategically show me that my messiness is a gift, not a burden. He is showing us that he loves us through our brokenness, through our bad choices and through the broken world we live in. He is bigger than all this mess, and we should rejoice in that.
Be a blessing to others today. Be transparent. Let God use you. You are blessed and highly favored by God, even in your messiness.
Luke 6:38 – Give and it will be given to you. They will pour into your tap a good measure-pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.
Philippians 4:19 – And my God will supply all of your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus
1 Peter 5:7 – casting all of your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.
Isaiah 41:10 – Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
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